Guidelines…

SERMON TOPIC: THE ALIGNMENT SERIES X: Alignment With God’s Plan – God honoring Courtship

7 Principles of God-Honoring Courtship

1. Seek council first before going steady (Proverbs 15:22) ~~ Let the mind lead, not the heart.

2. Do not be unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14) ~~ A good result from a wrong decision does not make the decision right.

3. A period of truly knowing and appreciating each other better
- dreams, visions and goals
- beliefs, convictions and values
- likes & dislikes, preferences & differences
- expectations (roles & responsibilities)
- motivations & morals
- heritage & legacies (“this is what I remember about him/her”)

4. A serious period to prepare for marriage (Malachi 2:14-16)

5. Put God first in the relationship (Proverbs 19:21, 15:33)
- Cultivate a fear of God

6. The importance of the Christian community (Hebrews 10:25)

7. Seek to build healthy and wholesome relationship (1 Thess 4:3-7)
- “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, think about such things. If anything is exellent or praiseworthy, think about such things.” Philippians 4:8

Thanks for sharing, Grace :D

Dream Job...

A few weeks ago, we played an ice breaker for WELCOME session. “Share with us your dream job or a career that you wished you had or wanted to do.” A variety of dream jobs to select from, and mine was to be a counselor. Such a job suited me, a person who doesnt really love to talk much. Even when around people, I would more often be found listening than joining in the conversations.

Yesterday, the counselor in me had a chance to prove itself. One of my students showed excitement when talikng about his mother. Little did he know that it will stir up emotions of my dear 宝仪. Having been her teacher and friend for exactly 9 months now, I knew that the one thing she is most emotional about is her mother. Every time this scene takes place, I will be nervous inside for I am not sure of what I should really do.

All I could do was just hug her and let her cry. I am in no position to counsel her in this area because I am not in her shoes. From the classroom to the “car park”. There is nothing I can do, but every time such things happen, I am moved to say a prayer for her. That is all I can do. Yes, my dream job (next to a newscaster) is to be a cxxxxxxxr. Actually this reminds me of the times 宝仪 also did her share in being my listener. When I had the “issue”, she was my faithful friend. I wasnt asking for much, all I wanted was someone to listen to my craps back in January through May. Though she may be a very young teenager, she understood my dilemma, and was concern for all that I was going through. 宝仪，谢谢你在我需要支持的时候，都一直在我身边!

Little did I know that on the same night, Wai Ling suddenly buzzed me on msn asking me to call her. I didn’t know that she was going through all that she was going through. But here again, she was sharing her heart. Haha. Don’t know why, very lately, ever since Andrew played the ice breaker in cell, I feel the tugging and nudging to research counseling courses. Is it something I am supposed to pray about? What say You, Lord? Dream? Fantasy? Assumptions? Escapes?

Addition: As of 20:17:47, I got a call from him. I could not help shivering with excitement and nervousness at the same time. It is something I should be praying hard about and acting fast (if it ever was the Lord’s will)

1 + 1 = 2 new souls in heaven...

Within one week, 2 souls were added into the kingdom of God... The Bible says that when

幸福靠自己争取。。

今天，“爱的路上，你和我”，一开头，秀贞姐就说这一句了。。我非常同意！！幸福靠自己争取！整个节目里，虽然我在听他们2位的对话，可是我脑里一直重复以上那 7 个字。。我不懂怎样解释我那时候的感受，可是我只知道，我真的很喜欢那 7 个字，哈哈。。

后来，我也写了sms，想发送。。可是一个sms 5 毛钱。。5 毛钱对我来说，可以 send 50 个 sms 了。。所以，还是听话的，不 send 了。。就让它只不过是一个对自己的提醒吧：

“节目刚刚开始，秀贞说了一句‘幸福靠自己争取。’

我很认同！爱情是两个人的事情，最感动就是，男女

都一起面对快乐悲伤。当那一个人在面对困难时，相

信也最渴望的就是在他身边有个人来陪伴着他一起克

服每一个难关！要记住哦，幸福靠自己争取的。美门

的 DJ 们，多多加油吧！” ～ elaine

童话

忘了有多久，再没听到你
对我说你最爱的故事
我想了很久，我开始慌了
是不是我又做错了什么

你哭着对我说，童话里都是骗人的
我不可能是你的王子
也许你不会懂，从你说爱我以后
我的天空星星都亮了

** 我愿变成童话里，你爱的那个天使
张开双手变成翅膀守护你
你要相信，相信我们会像童话故事里
幸福和快乐是结局

你哭着对我说，童话里都是骗人的
我不可能是你的王子
也许你不会懂，从你说爱我以后
我的天空星星都亮了

** 我愿变成童话里，你爱的那个天使
张开双手变成翅膀守护你
你要相信，相信我们会像童话故事里
幸福和快乐是结局

我要变成童话里，你爱的那个天使
张开双手变成翅膀守护你
你要相信，相信我们会像童话故事里
幸福和快乐是结局

我会变成童话里，你爱的那个天使
张开双手变成翅膀守护你
你要相信，相信我们会像童话故事里
幸福和快乐是结局

一起写我们的结局。。

月亮代表我的心

你问我爱你有多深，我爱你有几分
我的情也真，我的爱也真
月亮代表我的心

你问我爱你有多深，我爱你有几分
我的情不移，我的爱不变
月亮代表我的心

轻轻的一个吻，已经打动我的心
深深的一段情，教我思念到如今

你问我爱你有多深，我爱你有几分
你去想一想，你去看一看
月亮代表我的心

Don't Let It Die...

I had some free time last Friday as my students had to entertain some uni students doing their assignments, and therefore needed to “borrow” my kids for a while. So I went down to the office and happen to see Chung Han. I caught hold of him and we had a short chat. All I did was just ask him one question… wahaha xP

By him pouring his heart as I listened, he really taught me lots… He really taught me to treasure things of eternal value than to trade it for earthly things… i have to admit that the first half of this year was really a shitty period, and I wished it hadn’t pull me down spiritually… But too bad, it sure did!!

Don’t let it die?? Yea, all I want is to be up again… I wanna be like Chung Han… Wahaha… Dude, thanks for being a friend, I know we don’t chat much but at least I feel comfortable talking, joking and opening up to you… Opening up here means not being afraid to be myself, and that includes the times when I am “behind the van” during lunch time, hehe…

YANG TERUTAMA

Yang terutama di dalam hidup ini
Memuliakan nama Yesus
Yang terutama di dalam hidup ini
Meninggikan nama-Nya

Halleluya, halleluya
Saya mau cinta Yesus
Halleluya, halleluya
Saya mau cinta Yesus

We had J-Son over for a short while for cell that night, and I thought that short while was it. Not knowing that he will call me after that, I was quite nervous when I saw his missed call, haha… I called him back, finding the opportunity to tell him about “something important.” Mission accomplished, of course, haha… Thanks for the support, bro I am hoping this time all is well with the Big Boss Above…

Yes, I was in the valleys for about 4 to 5 months, and trust me, it wasn’t fun at all down there… By God’s grace, I picked myself up… No no, my Jesus picked me up!! He was gracious enough to still be willing to pick me up despite my drawing away from Him… Haiya, anyway, that is history now la… Think back also sakit hati nia, wahaha… Just hope and pray that this time around, history will not repeat itself… Otherwise, not only shouldn’t history repeat itself, even the process should not be repeated, haha…

KAU TUHAN ADALAH BAPAKU

Kumiliki kasih Mu
Yang tak ternilai bagi ku
Meskipun ku tak punya siapapun juga
Sungguh indah kasih Mu Yang tak bersyarat untuk ku
Walaupun tak ada yang mengasihi ku

** Kau Tuhan adalah Bapa ku
Yang sangat menyayangi ku
Tak pernah sekalipun ku dapati
Kau sakiti hatiku
Kau Tuhan adalah Bapa ku
S’lalu memperhatikan ku
Tak ada alasan ‘tuk ku ragu-ragu
Ku serahkan hati ku
Kepada Mu

15条件的男人。。

1. 一个男人最重要的是坚强。 那些失败过一次就怨天尤人，萎靡不振、跌倒了爬不起来的男人坚决不能要。男人要能给女人安全感，如果你找一个老公，不能够照顾你，还要经常在你面前哭诉自己的不幸，让你也承担他实际上是可以挽救的痛苦，是非常的失败的。

2. 忠诚。这点就不用多说了，相信所有的女人都不愿意自己的老公红杏出墙。

3. 有气度。一定不能找小家子气的男人，即使他爱你。但是因为一点点小事就吃醋，不论你是因公与上司出去应酬，还是因私与多年不久的朋友聚会，在你回家后大吵大闹或者阴沉着脸半天不搭理你的男人，其实是自私的。当然，他会说他那是因为爱你才吃醋，可是不要忘了，爱一个人也要给她自由，姐妹们千万不要做被男人用各种方法把你变相的留在家里做只能洗衣做饭的家庭主妇。不是说家庭主妇不好，而是做为现在这个社会的女性，要有自己的社交圈子，要爱猫扑.爱生活、自强，不能给自己自由空间的男人千万不要找。

4. 身体健康。不要求那个男的有多么的威猛高大，但一定要身体健健康康的。一个女人身体有点毛病，可以称之为弱不禁风，如果一个男人整天病怏怏的，你说像啥话?

5. 不要xxxxxx乖宝宝。没人说孝顺不对，孝顺的男人很善良，但是，夫妻之间的事都征求xxxxxx看法，毫无自己主见，嘴巴里动不动就说："妈妈说。。。。。。。妈妈说。。。。。。"这样的妈妈面前的乖宝宝坚决不能要，记住，你嫁的是一个男人，并不是那个男人的母亲。

6. 爱屋及乌。一个男人如果真的爱你，会爱你的一切，包括你的坏习惯，你的朋友，你的家人。。。。。如果他不能忍受你的朋友或家人某些方面的缺陷或对你身边的人有所不满，那么做为一个聪明的女性，应当尽量避免他与他们见面；如果他苛求到要求你与他们断绝来往，不用犹豫了，甩了他吧！

7. 有一份稳定的收入。爱情是很重要的，但是要建立在有面包的基础上。不一定要万贯家财，可生活要有保障。所谓贫贱夫妻百事哀，如果一个男人连孩子的奶粉钱都拿不出来，这个月初就开始担心下个月的供房款，那么，你跟着他只有吃苦的份了。

8. 自信。浑身散发着自信味道的男人，能让女人放心的依靠。

9. 外貌匹配。不要求他一定英俊潇洒，但要看上去不至于引起公愤，总不能你亭亭玉立一大美女，身边找一矮个的黑胖子吧。

10. 细心又有情趣。他可以不记得你大伯小叔三姑四姨的生日，但你的生日与结婚纪念日一定要记住，这两个日子在婚姻生活中是很重要的。能够出去浪漫一下，还有礼物收是最好的。　

11. 无不良嗜好。烟可以抽一点，酒可以喝一点，但不能太过。你总不想天天回去面对一个醉醺醺的酒鬼，嘴里还不时散发着一股浓浓的烟臭味的人吧?

12. 社交能力强。不是说一定要活跃得见人就笑，见手就握得那种地步，也不需要他在社交方面有一定强硬的手腕，但不能羞羞答答。一起出去应酬，他只知道站在一旁傻笑，而找不到话题与你的同事交谈，凡事需要你出来撑场面的男人，会让你脸面无光。

13. 大男人气概。这里说的大男人气概，不是说大男子主义，那种在家里典型家务一点不做、衣来伸手饭来张口的男人不可取。大男人气概是指你在外面受到欺负时，他能够挺身而出，毫不犹豫的为你出头，真真切切的保护你。光是这一点，这个男人都值得你考虑托付终身。

14. 有责任心。男人一定要有责任心，自己做的事要敢于自己承担，无论是公事还是私事。那种一有事就往别人身上推的男人不但卑鄙而且可耻。

15. 有一颗平和的心。这个世界已经习惯以一个人事业上的成功来衡量一个人的价值。事实上，一个人的价值在于他的存在对别人是否重要。即使那个人不能在事业上取得与其他人一样辉煌的成就，但是他的平凡生活对他身边的人一样很重要就代表有价值。如果一个男人不能以一颗平和的心去看待自己的得失，整天愤世嫉俗，怪社会不公、怨生活不平，那么你和他在一起也会影响你的心态，容易偏激，给你的心理造成巨大的压力，导致你不快乐的生活。

能够做到以上15条的男人，你就可以考虑嫁给他了！！！