Standards, Request & Expectations… No Compromise!!

Times may have changed, but my standards & beliefs will not waver… 3 years ago it has been, now it is, 3 years down the road it will still be…

I was asked these questions: “what are the things you look for in a life partner?” I used to have a list of how my Mr. Right should turn out to be… He must be such and such, he should know this and that… Is it difficult being a Christian? Not only being a Christian, but also one who would stand up for my beliefs? It depends entirely on the individual involve… perhaps it’s the way I’ve been brought up, the teachings that have been instilled in me way back… I believe with these teachings, the one lesson I learned is never to go against the will of God *winkz*

4 years ago when I hit the big TWO, friends have started teasing me about my other half… Some have even tried offering help intro-ing “leng chai’s” to me telling me that they have done what they could and it’s now up to me to cease the opportunity… Childish!! What, match-making session?? Do they actually think that I will simply fall for any tom, dick and harry just coz they are leng chai, so to say? Or just coz I’m unattached?? Gosh, haha… Looks without godly character equals zero *lol* Anyways, this topic somehow surfaced while in a conversation with kenji and even he was teasing me about it, hmm… somehow, I admitted that I was actually eyeing someone *winkz* he’d asked about my progress with this guy and stuff… shall I take it that he’s just being concern? Haha… I don’t know, to me, he probably sounded surprised that I would give such a response… yes, I do know that times have changed, but I’d prefer to live it like the Bible says rather than getting myself into hot soup… prevention is better than cure, heheh :p he outright told me that I was being conservative when I said that the guy has to be the one who initiates, hah!! No way am I giving in to the idea of making the first move…

Another instance was when a friend tried to intro someone to me and my first question to her was, “Is he a christian?” Right then, “Alamak elaine, why you so old-fashioned one? He’s quite leng chai you know? Don’t tell me just coz he’s an unbeliever, you brush off the possibility of getting to be with someone who would make a good companion?” Now that’s the whole point!! How would I know he would make a good companion, unless he is God-fearing? Moreover, if he isnt a believer, how else could he be God-fearing? Having seen and heard people with these experiences, it is an object lesson for me to stay focus and not be distracted… “Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we asked…” despite my eyeing someone, all He might say is ‘I have someone better!!’ Having known that, why settle for second best? Why compromise and jeopardize my future when I know that it could and will be safe in the hands of my life’s Director??

Setting standards means sticking to it til the end without COMPROMISE… the discernment to know and shut off all the voice of the enemy, even when the offer seems welcoming… temptation may sometimes look good (it definitely does!!) but at the end of the day, would I rather value the NOW, or cherish the FOREVER AFTER? Would I aim to please God or would I succumb to flesh and regret? Would I wanna be proud to announce my success or ashamed to confess past mistakes? Practice what I preach!! If I told my Ranger Kids to do what pleases God, I would have to live them out myself first, haha :p

2 Cor 6:14 ~~> Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers…

Farewell, my friend(s)

There is a time for everything, as said in the first few verses of Ecc 3, a season for every activity under heaven… A time to be born a time to die… a time to tear down a time to mend… and so the list goes on… but lemme add a new one to the existing list - A time to meet a time to part, haha… As difficult as it may seem, the time will finally come when we have to say goodbye… no doubt it’s hard, but I believe it is all for the glory of His kingdom, all will turn out good *winkz* one is already hard enough, but wednesday saw TWO farewell celebrations for us, PraiseGivers… aaawww… hehe…

Being the youngest in the cell, it is not a wonder that I could relate well to the one next to youngest… and yes, being only a year older than me, Yen Leng was someone I could relate to… although I share nothing much about deep personal issues despite her constant pestering, I guess it’s just because we are merely one year apart… she was one of the few to whom I felt really comfortable chatting with even from the very beginning itself… don’t get me wrong, of course the rest of them are also dear to me =) anyways, she WAS the main person for the night, but besides that another farewell was in store for the PraiseGivers…

Connor was exceptionally quiet this time around, unlike his usual self… So we were assuming that it could be due to the reality of our multiplication taking effect on him, and he felt heavy-hearted to part with a portion of his sheep… the minute I saw Choon Ean, our zone leader for PJNorth 4, walked in the door, I knew that there was to be a meeting/discussion with both j-son my cell leader and connor the assistant, and so it is when j-son summoned for connor to meet them in the kitchen while the rest of us resumed our noisiness… two weeks is not too far away for me to start praying along with the leaders that God will show them the right thing to do in terms of who to shepherd and where will the new cell be… Some dropped hints about whom they wanna follow and whose leadership they wanna be with while others remained indifferent… All in all, it is the Lord that will show the leaders the answers… Hopefully, it’ll turn out good *winkz* we will all witness the birth of another new cell on the 9th…

Farewell, farewell *sighs* all that sad movies aside, we did have some good news, haha… contrary to the farewells and partings, we saw two people coming together, making a commitment to each other and of course to God… no, definitely not a wedding, just an acknowledgement of the beginning of their relationship as a couple… [I think dumc is famous for having more than one person with the same name, haha… so far we have 2 Nicole’s, 2 Debbie’s, 3 Alvin’s… will there be 2 or 3 elaine’s? wahaha] debbie, our new cell member (yes, another debbie… not Father’s Garden cell leader) fondly known as debbie debbie, finally got together with her darling, benny *winkz* what a sweet occasion for them despite all the teasing from my all-nonsense cell leader j-son, wahaha :p the creativity of the whole thing is just so amusing, heheh… turned out a lot like a wedding procedure, with the “wedding bells” song and a camera man recording the whole event… from the arrival of the couple, to the interview with both of them… from making clear the rules & guidelines to the reading of vows, which of coz had a little alteration instead of the real marriage vow (duhh!!), after which the exchanging of rings part was replaced with benny presenting a gift to debbie… a necklace with a cross pendant, as a reminder that Jesus was at the centre of their relationship… as he put it on for her (aaawww, so sweet!!), I cudn't help but picture them with a wonderful future together in the Lord, haha…

Congrats to you two!! May you set a good example in this relationship for others to follow =) “til breakup do you part” *lol* and not forgetting the ausie girl yen leng, haha… I’m glad our paths met, and I believe it is bcoz God is trying to work out something here… amen??

The Inevitable News!!

News can be good, it can be bad… Anticipation of a good one sees a person’s mood elevating in excitement, but a bad one can help ruin the rest of the day… This time I’d say it’s a bit of both, but very much more to the good, of course *winkz* After worship, both my cell leader and assistant got together for a one-minute-discussion, whispering to each other, leaving us wondering what they were up to.. Finally, when they turned back to face us:

j-son (cell leader) : ok, connor.. I say one word you say one word =)

connor (asst cell leader) : sure, you start =)

j-son : ok, PraiseGivers, we have an announcement to make, & here goes… WE

connor : ARE

j-son : GOING

connor : TO

j-son : MULTIPLY!!

I bet I saw expressions on a few faces changed… No doubt multiplication is hard, especially after having gotten to know each other better and when the bond is already there… but without growth, a cell can literally be considered “dead.” Yes, when I heard some hints about this issue from j-son some time earlier, I was bargaining with God to drag it a lil longer, haha… I was only halfway through getting to know them, and we’ll be separated already? But then again, having personally been in a cell for 9 years now, it’s pretty obvious I should know that multiplication is the only way to keep a healthy cell growing *winkz*

An ideal cell should consist no more than 10 members max… this is to achieve maximum results in terms of relationship and spiritual growth, where the leaders could effectively monitor and shepherd their sheeps to greater heights not only in Christ but also physically (means the relationship with one another within the circle) and emotionally (means the maturity of each member)… it gives the leaders a better chance to see to each member’s needs individually and have a personal follow-up if need be… this way, the members would feel the personal touch and understand that the leaders do actually care… Anyhow, if there isnt any such personal fellowship, the members shouldn't assume or take it for granted that the leaders don’t love them or care for them =p

It was only recently, November I think, that they multiplied out from the mother cell, the Father’s Garden, and now we’ll see the birth of another… so, what’s the new name gonna be?? Haha… WorldChangers? HistoryMakers? Ooh, all ideas are welcomed, yea? Haha… Woohoo, all glory goes to God!! J-son and Connor, great job!! The rest of the PraiseGivers, even if we have multiplied and gained a new name, I pray and hope that this name PraiseGivers will forever remain in our hearts… that no matter what the circumstances will be, we will always give praise to His name… Amen?? Go PraiseGivers, love you guys!! J-son and Connor, keep up the good work *winkz*

Father’s Garden outing...

Members of the Praise Givers are undoubtedly enjoying themselves at Pulau Perhentian for the long awaited annual cell retreat… they left last Thursday evening and came back yesterday… this being their first retreat ever since multiplying from the “mother cell” called the Father’s Garden, I was excited about the whole thing… as far as I know, dumc cell groups, especially Young Adults’ (YA) will make it a point to have a retreat annually just to have some time off the weekly cell routine for some more fun *winkz* although it was something which I very much wanted to participate in, I chose to sit this one out when I found out that the activities would consist more of moving about, sight-seeing and island hopping… now, since I had my Friday night free, I thought it would be fun to join Father’s Garden for their cell night… I could get to know them better too XD

Scouted around, made some enquiries and found out from my chat buddy, alvin toh, that it wouldn’t be a usual cell night but rather they were planning for a hang-out… his cell leader debbie, being more of an oikos- and fellowship-oriented person, had planned for an outing… so I seized the opportunity to get to know them better and I definitely had fun the whole night even though it was only watching and listening to their conversations and periodically laughing at some siau-ness they portrayed, haha… movie was first in the agenda, dinner followed… both equally good, movie and food, wahaha XD but if you were to ask me, I’d say Poseidon is okay, but not quite as good as Titanic… the latter was so much more exhilarating, hehe =p but still it was good…

Dinner was kinda delayed due to the waiting, haha… we had to queue up and wait for our table name to be called… hmm, how well known is this place actually?? Well, alvin said that people blogged so much about it, and that goes to show that this place really is something, haha… no websites to link you to it though but go google it at Yuen Buffet Steamboat, haha… The best part about the steamboat buffet dinner was they served ice creams *winkz* with UNLIMITED helpings, woohoo… since this dinner was being treated for, I thought it wudnt be nice if I took so little (not worth the price then)… so I enjoyed the steamboat as much as I could to the max… stopped where I couldn’t, gave my stomach a rest and resumed again a while later with refills and refills of ice creams and I seriously enjoyed dinner becoz of the unlimited ice creams, haha… too bad, I didn’t have a cam with me then… debbie suggested that they should take a group pic, including the food to show my cell leader j-son that I was having as much fun with Father’s Garden, too *lol* no doubt I did, and lemme tell you, just by observing and listening to them was fun enough… there isnt a need for me to say or talk much (that’s me anyway, being super shy if it was my first time with some new frens I seldom hung out with) =p

(*note: no, I didn’t take those pics!! Stole them from somewhere *lol*)

Actually, alvin challenged my quiet nature… he’s my online buddy who keeps me company all through the day when I worked from home… having commented that I’m a very chatty person and since we have been chatting sooo much online, he refused to believe that I have a very quiet personality in person… (we have only met up 3 times so far, I think, which explains why he cudn't believe I was a quiet person by nature) all through dinner, I just listened and laughed at their conversations and jokes but did not talk much… I held back from laughing when he said I was AWFULLY quiet that night, unlike online, haha… it really depends on how you perceive me and how well you know me *winkz* I can't deny that one of the benefits I got from being “awfully” quiet was that I got to know so much about them without them thinking that I was being inquisitive by trying to be nosy, talking and asking so much questions =p

All in all, I definitely enjoyed their company… hoping that both the cells, mother and daughter cell, would come up with something that we could do together more often… for now, I wanna hear what Father’s Garden cell leader have to say about me to the Praise Givers’ cell leader… hahaha XD

IT’S ALL IN THE MIND!!

This is one long overdue post, but it’s better late than never, haha… the objective is to state it lout and clear!!

If the nation is rising, shouldn't we the citizens rise along with her? All the stuff we hear about how to better improve our country and the infrastructure… No doubt it is a good thing, but I strongly believe that however advanced the nation may be, we will still be way behind if we refuse to broaden our mentality and the way we perceive things!! Sometimes we just gotta let go of the negative mind set and begin to take on the new outlook… if we, the disabled community, can and have moved on, I don’t see why all you people out there can’t give us the respect and stop thinking of us as the “weird” group!! I am not so much speaking for myself, but on behalf of all other disabled on this planet as well…

We might be less capable physically, but other than that what on earth is so unusual about a bunch of friends on a wheelchair going out to have fun and release stress? We have a life too, therefore stress is an inevitable subject… I think as far as a Person With Disability (PWD) is concerned, it is more of the emotional stress that we have to face, so therefore we also need an outlet before we “crack up” as a result of bottled-up emotions and feelings, haha… I have come to a stage where I really don’t care what you wanna think of me anymore… But I just don’t understand what is so nice in staring at us (or do you people out there just stare for the fun of staring??) One of my friends suggested that maybe all you guilty people out there are PAID to stare at us, haha… gosh, grow up, people!! Even a small kid can be/do 10 times better than any of you so-called matured people out there in terms of courtesy and as far as friendliness is concerned *tsk tsk tsk* talk about being an example for the younger generation…

It is really annoying sometimes when all you do the minute you come across a person in a wheelchair (or anyone at all with a disability for that matter) is STARE at us like no body’s business!! What is worse is that you not only stare, you hold your gaze (without a smile at all, mind u!!) with a “one-kind” look in it like as if we’re some disease-spreading creature that will spread the worst of diseases to you… it’s like as if you have never seen a disabled out in the public before… call urself a developing nation?? This is not to offend anyone on purpose, rather just to wake all you people up!! However if you do feel offended with this entry that somehow seems to shoot straight at you, then please check urself and ponder on what might have triggered me to say these things… Siapa makan cili, dia rasa pedas!! In addition to that, I would also say that Malaysia is still very left out in terms of facilities *sigh* despite only a handful of places which have progressed in the facilities as far as a PWD is concerned, it is still not as progressive as certain overseas countries like australia and japan to name a few… we have yet to see certain public places in malaysia improve for the better!!

I was having a chat with kenji (my boss at JICA) on this issue about courtesy last Wednesday and he was being upfront with me when he said that we, as Malaysians, still have A LOT to learn… I liked his straight forward attitude… he gave an example of what happened the day before when he went out for lunch with his other assistant, Siti (he has another assistant who goes in to work every alternate days apart from Wednesdays, which is my working day)… as they were waiting to enter the lift at one of the malls to go for lunch, he saw that people just couldn’t be bothered to have some courtesy to let them have their turn first, instead were fighting to enter the lift and leave no space for both of them… the mentality is such that “I must be first. Who cares about others?” and on the hand we are talking about building a more caring society, masyarakat penyayang and watever…

Come on, don’t just talk without getting anything done about it!! Actions speaks louder than words, and it is all in the mind… whether or not we wanna act it out or just mere talk and leave it at that… And for goodness’ sake, change our mind set, thank you!!

OF GROWTH IN PHYSICAL & SPIRITUAL

Not that I’m proud to announce this little slip-up, but more so the effect/result of it… A teeeeny bit of misunderstanding (tho not face to face or verbally) occurred with someone from cell last Tuesday regarding something this person said in response with my japan application… perhaps my reply might have sounded that I was offended, and no doubt I was a bit irritated but it’s really a small matter… I was ok by the next minute already, and it really is “peanuts” compared to some major misunderstandings I had previously with some previous frens… God’s grace *winkz* but at least, with this current friend, I could see the initiative in trying to mend things rather than just taking it for granted… and I really appreciate that!!

Chatted for a while after that… realised that there were some things which I have never known the depth of… I mean of course I don’t demand to know every single thing, since I was an outsider who joined them only at a later stage… besides, if they wanna tell me, they will sooner or later… otherwise i wont push… but somehow, as the conversation went on, things began to voluntarily unravel… with that, I began to see the clearer picture and behind my mind I did wonder why the elaboration, since I didn’t even ask for it, haha… so as if to answer my query, he said it was becoz of the maturity to understand beyond the surface… All in all, things are sorted, situations are cleared, amen!!

All that aside, what a sweet surprise for the PraiseGivers when j-son announced the addition of two new members into our “troop” on friday!! God’s wonderful work la *winkz* I could see things happening becoz of the favour and grace from the Lord!! Spiritual maturity plays the most important role in the growth of a cell group, and now it is time for some nurturing of these new seeds… we better start preparing ourselves mentally, spiritually and emotionally for the major transition when the cell leader gives the green light (with instruction from the Lord, of course)… Tho I may feel heavy-hearted (come on, I’ve only been with them for 5 mths and we’ll be moving on again), I’m also excited for the new beginning… spoke to j-son about some issues concerning the new “seed” which I really do hope that it’d be taken into consideration, kekeke…

PraiseGivers belong to the Lord, so does the “seed”… whatever He wants, wherever He leads =)

CHITTY CHATTER...

It really feels good to be catching up for lost times, especially with a close friend whom you have not met for quite a while now… it has only been 3 mths, but it sure feels longer than that, haha… I find that to have a close friend with whom you can just be urself without putting on a façade does help a lot in building your character and personalities, most of all bringing out the real you *winkz* becoz this close friend is never afraid to highlight your weak points and then make you learn from it… best of all, no critical judgments or deliberate stabbing comments!!

However, it is the constructive criticism in love that is very much welcomed and appreciated, seriously… apart from that, it’s just the satisfaction of knowing that there is someone you can turn to with full trust… plus having the assurance and knowing pretty well that as far as privacy and confidentiality is concerned, this friendship package has the word “guaranteed” stamped on it… signed by both parties, wahaha… there I go again being siau, haih =p

Had some questions which I thought the only person who would be patient enough with me was wei, and besides he was the only one who knew the story behind those questions… all in all, problems solved… at least 95% of it la, hehe… thanx dude!! “counseling session” all the way from Melbourne *lol* counseling aside, some crazy things he did online left me in stitches… alamak, that guy… miss him la, haha… hey, I enjoyed that “tour” you took me on, wahaha… wait, I shall get my bro to fix it for me soon, hehe XD

Anyways, I thought I’d counted 6, but he added another 2 years (which I think those 2 were initial stages when God was working something in it, so it would turn out good for His glory) to our friendship, haha… another 2 more years make 10!! Woohoo, I wanna hit it big man =p

Laine-zy gurl says:
hey, suddenly this thought came to mind

CucuMBer freezes at 6*c says:
?

Laine-zy gurl says:
i wanna celebrate our 10th yr friendship
Laine-zy gurl says:
when time comes,
Laine-zy gurl says:
must make it big
Laine-zy gurl says:
;)
Laine-zy gurl says:
champaigne
Laine-zy gurl says:
:P
Laine-zy gurl says:
hahhah
Laine-zy gurl says:
very crappy

CucuMBer freezes at 6*c says:
wah ha ha, nice,.. how long have i known you?

Laine-zy gurl says:
ask urself la

CucuMBer freezes at 6*c says:
did not keep track ler, ha ha

Laine-zy gurl says:
i bet u dono

CucuMBer freezes at 6*c says:
erm..
CucuMBer freezes at 6*c says:
i try

Laine-zy gurl says:
try la
Laine-zy gurl says:
trying very hard??

CucuMBer freezes at 6*c says:
i started going to cell in form 2 or 3...
CucuMBer freezes at 6*c says:
so i think,, bout 8th year now??
CucuMBer freezes at 6*c says:
ha ha

Laine-zy gurl says:
clever boy
Laine-zy gurl says:
hahha
Laine-zy gurl says:
knwn u 8yrs la... but oni got close a yr or two after that

CucuMBer freezes at 6*c says:
ha ha, somehow huh?
CucuMBer freezes at 6*c says:
ke ke, God blessed me with a car, and with that came much more in the next years,

Laine-zy gurl says:
hahha... wah, with one blessing comes other additions

CucuMBer freezes at 6*c says:
yep, its all bout what we do with the first blessing.. ha ha

Laine-zy gurl says:
hmm... multiplication of other stuff... interesting, haha

CucuMBer freezes at 6*c says:
ha ha
CucuMBer freezes at 6*c says:
its true isn;t it?

Laine-zy gurl says:
def

so, yea… wei, remind me again when we hit 10, k? *lol* ok la, enough of crapping =p ooh yah, thanx A LOT for the “advice” dude… it really helped coz “things” were back to normal the next day *winkz*

one for you, one for me… cheers!!

A REDIRECTED DESTINY

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Such is the verse that came to mind when I saw the reply from the Secretariat for Duskin Leadership Training (DLT) in japan… yes, peeps, it finally came!! And no, peeps, I wasn’t selected, eheh… anyhow, I believe God’s plans are higher *winkz* perhaps I could try again next year, before I reach the age limit of 25 =)

I might have been hopeful and looking forward to it, but I realise that nothing’s gonna change the fact that God is an all-knowing God… I have set high hopes way back, afterwhich I decided the higher my hopes, the harder it will crash if it were never God’s will to begin with… this door closes, another door will open if only it is the will of God the Father… like what my mom said, “probably your ground is not in japan, but originally here in malaysia.” And of course I will remember the EXACT words she said to me a couple weeks back, hahaha… hmm, interesting… hehe

Not like I was gonna break down and cry or something, but encouragements from cell members were really appreciated, especially from evie!! She gave me DUMC’s last year’s theme: 1 Corinthians 2:9 ~~> “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those that love Him.” So be it!! Love you, girl, for you never fail to be a real encouragement to me ever since I knew you *winkz* come to think of it, it has only been a short almost-five-months, but it feels like a very long time, hehe… Hmm, which reminds me, my next aim would be DUMC’s YA camp, wahaha =p

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

haha, choc cake *tsk tsk tsk* yea, thats to "celebrate" my one year old bloggie... wahaha, somehow being very crazy today =p

MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN

Being a helpless romantic at heart, I marvel at loving, passionate moments/stories, be it movies or books… more so real life love stories *winkz* and I’ve heard of one, which I find kinda touching, so sweet that it actually made me abit emo when I was reading it for the first time… come on, I haven’t even met, or rather didn’t even know the blogger yet (I have constantly heard of him through wai ling and CK, but have never met him face to face yet although we have chatted online from time to time) and I’m tearing at his love stories?? Haha… even for the second time… when i asked him about it, he referred me back to those entries, where he had detailed everything from the beginning itself… Despite having read it before, it still gave the same impact and I found myself trying to control that emotion juz in case anyone passes by my room and see me teary-eyed… What?? Goodness, since when did I become such a softy as far as romantic issues are concerned?? Haha… but seriously, it was definitely “something” (ya, ya, peter… I know you’re laughing your head off at me now, aren’t you??)

Even sweeter was his darling, when I read about how she gave of herself sacrificially to the man whom she loves despite him being a tetraplegic... (For more info on this paralysis, check this out, where you can also find explanations on injuries to different levels of the spinal chord) I bet she knew that she would have to sacrifice a lot in order to be with him because of his disability, yet she still went on with the relationship… hats off to her for that!! Generally, if a couple (specifically one who’s seeing each other romantically) consist of an able-bodied and a PWD, I wouldn’t say it’s always the case, but more often than not, it requires a lot of sacrifice from the abled party and courage from both to keep the relationship going… No, I’m not speaking from experience, and I don’t need to be experiencing it in order to share it *winkz* but if you really look at it beyond the surface, don’t you think it’s true?

It was beautiful how they met (go to page 2, entry dated february 2, 2005), even more so for the progress of that relationship… and how from one that’s simply platonic and nothing more than cyber friends, it grew into something more, something beyond the platonic stage… I asked him how did he know that she was THE ONE… “Do you believe in God?” was his question to my question XD And my answer was (and still is) yes, I do, haha… I definitely do!! Anyways, God definitely saw them fit for each other and have worked something out of that bond, bringing them deeper in their relationship with each other through each passing moment… Wuan, if you happen to stumble upon this through your darling, I juz wanna let you know that I really admire you *winkz* keep up the good work yea? And Petes, here's wishing you a fruitful, loving, lasting relationship with Wuan!!

Who says love doesn’t blossom through cyberspace? Who says cyber love seldom succeed? Well, I say it does… look at peter, he's one living proof!! wahaha *winkz* with God, all things are possible, right? *lol* there are probably many more couples out there whose relationship started plainly through the net as mere frens or chat buddies… of course those who were living in the 70's & 80's had their share of stories too, except that theirs might differ in terms of communication since internet was still non-existant, haha… they could probably have been penpals with long distance relationship, hehe… and I happen to also know of one who started off as penpals, ended up as husband & wife, haha *winkz* anyways, although we would have heard about those that did not work out, others might suggest that they have seen couples through their “BIG DAY” til she walks down the aisle towards him and say “I DO!!” so I would say it really depends… on the situation AND on God to bring the right one, haha… and all we need is a little faith in God, trusting Him to work out the best for each of us =) just something to ponder: Hebrews 11:1 ~~> Now faith is being sure of what we hope for, and certain of what we do not see…