The Seed of Love

I never knew such a blessed opportunity of seeing such a nostalgic sight would still come my way after almost 20 years. It stirred my excitement to see such beautiful sights of it when I visited Gary Ding in Changkat Kruing . As I approached the Saga seed-carpeted road of that little town, the child in me gently insisted that he helped me collect it, having in mind for it to be a gift for my hubby on our 2nd Wedding Anniversary.

Every time I look at those seeds in the bottle, it reminds me of my beloved:

1) Red happens to be his favorite color. 

2) That little amount in that bottle is only a fraction of what I have hand-picked. Out of the many that fell from the tree, some may have defects - physically, mentally or emotionally. It is then that I have to have the wisdom to discern which to keep and which to ignore/forego.

3) The tedious task of picking each one and carefully placing them in the bottle is similar to the tedious task of caring for each of his needs and making sure he is as neat as he is.

I have had friends come up to me and asked why I chose the date I chose for our wedding and whether or not there is any significance to that date. Well, 19 in mandarin is 一九。就是要专一，也要永久！Awesome, aight? As we celebrate our 2nd milestone, it is with a heart full of overflowing gratitude that God has put us together to complete each other. Our relationship equation is not 1 + 1 = 2 but 1/2 + 1/2 = 1. Where there is a will, there is always a way. We're here on earth for a reason: To live life for Him and to live it to the fullest. 

I LOVE YOU, DEAR!! HAPPY 2ND ANNIVERSARY!

牵手，放手或紧守？

不管你有没有男朋友，有没有女朋友，都过来把它读完，写的真是那么回事。

你发觉了吗？

爱的感觉，总是在一开始觉得很甜蜜，

总觉得多一个人陪、多一个人帮你分担，

你终于不再孤单了，至少有一个人想着你、

恋着你，不论做什么事情，

只要能一起，就是好的。。。

。。。但是慢慢的，随着彼此的认识越深，

你开始发现了对方的缺点，

于是问题一个接着一个发生，

你开始烦、累，甚至想要逃避，

有人说爱情就像在捡石头，

总想捡到一个适合自己的，

但是你又如何知道什么时候能够捡到呢？

他/她适合你，那你又适合她/他吗？

其实，爱情就像磨石子一样，

或许刚捡到的时候，你不是那么的满意，

但是记住，人是有弹性的，

很多事情是可以改变的，

只要你有心、有勇气，

与其到处去捡未知的石头，

还不如好好的将自己已经拥有的石头磨亮，

你开始磨了吗？

很多人以为是因为感情淡了，

所以人才会变得懒惰。

错！

其实是人先被惰性征服，

所以感情才会变淡的。

在某个聚餐的场合，

有人提议多吃点虾对身体好，

这时候有个中年人忽然说『十年前，当我老婆还是我的女朋友的时候，她说要吃十只虾，我就剥二十只给她！

现在，如果她要我帮她剥虾壳，开玩笑！我连帮她脱衣服都没兴趣了，还剥虾壳咧！』

听到了吗？明白了吗？

难怪越来越多人只想要谈一辈子的恋爱，

却迟迟不肯走入婚姻。

因为，婚姻容易让人变得懒惰。

如果每个人都

懒得讲话、懒得倾听、

懒得制造惊喜、

懒得温柔体贴，

那么夫妻或是情人之间，

又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢？

* 所以请记住：

有活力的爱情，

是需要适度殷勤浇灌的，

谈恋爱，更是不可用偷懒的哦！

有一对情侣，相约下班后去用餐、逛街，

可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了，

当她冒着雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟，

他的男朋友很不高兴的说：

你每次都这样，现在我什么心情也没了，

我以后再也不会等你了！

刹那间，女孩终于xx崩溃了，

她心里在想：或许，他们再也没有未来了

同样的在同一个地点，另一对情侣也面临同样的处境；

女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头，

他的男朋友说：『我想你一定忙坏了吧！』

接着他为女孩拭去脸上的雨水，并且脱去外套x在女孩身上，

此刻，女孩流泪了

但是流过她脸x的泪却是温馨的。

你体会到了吗？

其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间！

爱不x要懂得宽容更要及时，

很多事可能只是在于你心境的转变罢了！

懂了吗？

当有个人爱上你，而你也觉得他不错，

那并不代表你会选择他。

我们绝说：『我要找一个自己很爱很爱的人，才会谈恋爱。』

但是当对方问你，怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候，

你却无法回答他，因为你自己也不知道。

没错，我们总是以为，我们会知道一个自己很爱很爱的人。

可是后来，当我们猛然回首，我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。

假如从来没有开始，你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢？

其实，很爱很爱的感觉，是要在一起经历了许多事情之后才会发现的。

或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣，

但是你有没有想过『在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了，只是你没发觉而已呢？』

所以，还是仔细看看身边的人吧！他或许已经等你很久了

当你爱一个人的时候，爱到八分绝对刚刚好。

所有的期待和希望都只有七八分；剩下两三分用来爱自己。

如果你还继续爱得更多，很可能会给对方沉重的压力，让彼此喘不过气来，

完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。

所以请记住，

喝酒不要超过六分醉，

吃饭不要超过七分饱，

爱一个人不要超过八分

如果你也正在为爱迷惘，或许下面这段话可以给你一点启示：

爱一个人，要了解，也要开解；

要道歉，也要道谢；

要认错，也要改错；

要体贴，也要体谅；

是接受，而不是忍受；

是宽容，而不是纵容；

是支持，而不是支配；

是慰问，而不是质问；

是倾诉，而不是控诉；

是难忘，而不是遗忘；

是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代；

是为对方默默祈求，

而不是向对方诸多要求；

可以浪漫，淡不要浪费；

* 不要随便牵手，

* 更不要随便放手。

Losing weight...

 

They say “An apple a day keeps the doctor away”, but I say “an apple a day keeps the fat fat away”… Haha… I’d rather be skinny yet healthy than chomping undesirable “substance” which will lead to routine purging… I recently happened to sniff upon some nauseating stench, afterwhich witnessed some disgusting sight. Ooh, and minutes later heard some undesirable news. Since I’ve been a small eater since the first surgery 3yrs ago, just one full apple a day is “sap sap water”, hehe… 

The secret to staying full and not crave for food? Drink lots and lots and lots and lots of water… And go pee lots and lots and lots and lots, wahaha… Don’t believe me? Try it!! I can proudly say that I survived the 30-hour Famine without a single bite but solely on plain water… 

 

The ET Returns??

Contemplation on whether or not I should get to blogging again... After ditching this blog for www.elaineteo.com three years ago, of which it was long dead, I am now struggling with the option of whether I should come back to blogging. 

It would require deliberate effort to keep this blogging habit a momentum. We'll see how things go, but at the mo, I want to try something which will help me earn more money. Feedbacks will come later.

ET takes off for now, but ET will be back. 

Celebrating 10 years!!!

Yesterday marked our first decade. Celebrating 10 years of friendship with someone who has been one of my best buddies since ages ago. Someone whom I can count on to pull me up when I am down, cheer me up when I am emo-ing, hear me out when I just feel like crapping.

How did you manage to be such good friends with someone from the opposite gender? Younger than you pulak tu? You want to know how? Transparency is the answer. There is no hindrance to us chatting about anything. Waiting for our makan session tomorrow, hehe.

Sai lo, thanks for everything!! Blessed 10th year!! I pray that you will always be blessed inside out with His richest blessings. May your wishes & dreams come true in His perfect timing. Don’t forget to spill any and all good news to me, wahaha xP See you tomorrow.

Disappointments…

If it has been my passion, why is it dying? If it has been what I aspired to do as a ministry, why is it fading? Am I disappointed with situations or life itself? No denying my failures in my job. I am no parent, therefore no experience. I am no certified teacher, therefore no hands-on.

“Spare the rod, spoil the child” What, then, is expected of me? A teacher? A mother? All in one? Don’t expect to throw your child to the teacher, and let her do all the disciplining when all the parent does is spoil him by not spanking him when a mistake is done. Time is the factor. Have you got enough time for the kiddos in your hands? If I am in the liberty, all I want to do is spank them hard! All I want to do is whack them out of their skins to make them realize how irritating it has been.

Disappointments stay with the fact that expectations are piling, and responsibilities are mounting. Yet achievements are out of discussion. To top that up with a troubling medical condition, I am hoping I won’t go into a fit, haha.

Guidelines…

SERMON TOPIC: THE ALIGNMENT SERIES X: Alignment With God’s Plan – God honoring Courtship

7 Principles of God-Honoring Courtship

1. Seek council first before going steady (Proverbs 15:22) ~~ Let the mind lead, not the heart.

2. Do not be unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14) ~~ A good result from a wrong decision does not make the decision right.

3. A period of truly knowing and appreciating each other better
- dreams, visions and goals
- beliefs, convictions and values
- likes & dislikes, preferences & differences
- expectations (roles & responsibilities)
- motivations & morals
- heritage & legacies (“this is what I remember about him/her”)

4. A serious period to prepare for marriage (Malachi 2:14-16)

5. Put God first in the relationship (Proverbs 19:21, 15:33)
- Cultivate a fear of God

6. The importance of the Christian community (Hebrews 10:25)

7. Seek to build healthy and wholesome relationship (1 Thess 4:3-7)
- “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, think about such things. If anything is exellent or praiseworthy, think about such things.” Philippians 4:8